On Feeling Like A Failure

On feeling like a failure (by Seth Godin)

Feeling like a failure has little correlation with actually failing.

There are people who have failed more times than you and I can count, who are happily continuing in their work.

There are others who have achieved more than most of us can imagine, who go to work each day feeling inadequate, behind, and yes, like failures and frauds.

These are not cases of extraordinary outliers. In fact, external data is almost useless in figuring out whether or not someone is going to adopt the narrative of being a failure.

Failure (as seen from the outside) is an event. It’s a moment when the spec isn’t met, when a project isn’t completed as planned.

Feelings, on the other hand, are often persistent, and they are based on stories. Stories we tell ourselves as much as stories the world tells us.

As a result, if you want to have a feeling, you’ll have it. If you want to seek a thread to ravel, you will, you’ll pull at it and focus on it until, in fact, you’re proven right, you are a failure.

Here’s the essential first step: Stop engaging with the false theory that the best way to stop feeling like a failure is to succeed.

Thinking of one’s self as a failure is not the same as failing. And thus, succeeding (on this particular task) is not the antidote. In fact, if you act on this misconception, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of new evidence that you are, in fact, correct in your feelings, because you will ignore the wins and remind yourself daily of the losses.

Instead, begin with the idea that the best way to deal with a feeling is to realize that it’s yours

This post is originally written by Seth Godin and if you are interested in learning from an industry leader, finding your “purple cow” and taking the lead, I would definitely recommend following his blog for great content.

Happiness is a Choice

 

So sometimes or most times really, life throws us some nasty distractions. Something like someone not fulfilling their promises, or a project you’ve put so much work in, failing. Or people trying to walk over you cos you’re “so nice”. Well, you should know by now that you aren’t the only one with those problems. Everyone has their own fair share. What really matters is your decision in those times. That’s what will make any difference at all. It’s not that you have problems. It’s that you “choose” to still enjoy life in spite of it all. Happiness is a choice really. So make the choice because, sadly, no one will make it for you.

Choose to be happy even when your life seems it’s on the edge.

Choose to be happy even when your heart is broken in a million pieces.

Choose to be happy when your bills aren’t paid and you have no idea where your next meal will come from.

Choose to be happy when someone you love judges you and condemns you.

Choose to be happy because that’s the only way you can show that you are alive and you have hope and that no matter what, you will overcome all your trials and push past your failures.

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Is Photography Your Passion? Then Get Better at It

Photography is more than just pictures. It is a mix of personality, creativity and skill to produce great works of art. I have had some experience in Photography myself and I can tell you that the more you practice, study and try new things, the better you get at it. I would recommend this site to any one. You can get some real and valuable content here >> Click here to visit Digital Photography School.

What is Great Content?

I have been thinking lately about blogging: what to post, if my writing is good enough, if my posts/stories are interesting enough, and if I have what it takes to authoritatively speak on any subject.
I’ve read a lot of blog posts, quotes and articles about blogging and some advise having great content, making your posts constant, finding a niche etc. A recent post I read talked about just being you: talking about what you are passionate about.
I am passionate about a lot of things: pictures, providing for other people, social media marketing, success, motivation and so much more. I have to ask. Where does someone like me fall in? What niche or area of focus do I fall into? I’m willing to learn though I am not yet able to get some of the training I want.
This is the reason I wrote this post: to get your advice.
What’s your best blogging advice for me? What has worked for you and how did you find out what works?
Let me know in the comment section. I would really appreciate it. Thanks in advance.

Customer Service: Put Your Customers First

I got this email this morning and it put a huge smile on my face.
This is how you should treat your customers. It would definitely increase their trust and love for your brand.
I’ve changed the original names.

” CONGRATULATIONS KOERTAH!

This is Dave and I wanted to let you know that, even though it’s only been 17 days since you signed up with “PODGE”, we all voted and unanimously named you our favorite user! Seriously, you’re the best and we wouldn’t know what to do without you!

Wait, you think I send this to all our users…?

OK, you caught me- I was just looking for an excuse to contact you and check in. If there’s anything I can do to make your relationship with “PODGE”, better don’t hesitate to reach out.

By the way, looks like you haven’t gotten your Search Score yet, which measures how good you look on Google. Once you get it, we can track your first page and help you start improving it.

Go log in and get your Score!

I’m also always happy to set up a call to walk you through the product or answer any questions you have. Anything I can do to help you control your search results.

Have a great day,

Dave, your personal search rep”

Beauty in Little Places #addvalue

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When I saw this picture my mind and heart filled with memories and stories of broken promises, failed attempts, high obstacles and mistakes. It is a truly beautiful & intriguing picture. Maybe you’re wondering why all ‘that’ should fill mind. It’s because this same picture also reminded me of the victories, achievements and successes from those other events. It recalls again the phrase, ‘there is always a way’.
No matter how bland your life may look like right now, it will not stay that way forever. Joy shall surely come in the morning. The Sun shall surely rise in its beauty.
Don’t be discouraged, you have more in you than you even acknowledge. Don’t stop dreaming. Don’t stop living. Your time to break free & bloom like that small pretty plant is near.

Share and encourage someone. We all need a little motivation sometimes.